Why We Hold Onto Pain
We turn ourselves into a living indictment to the people who hurt us, because often, when we release our pain, there is a subconscious wrestling with justice that the person who hurt us is being let off the hook.
Too Busy to Journal
Every once in a while someone will tell me that they really like keeping a journal. Many of these same people also tell me that they haven’t made a journal entry in a while. I suggested to one person recently that for now she might be building new experiences to write about later. Sometimes we…
What’s the Real Problem?
So often people come to me with global problems – I’m anxious. I don’t communicate well. I Just can’t get going, etc. Those are big problems, but they’re also not very specific. One of the many things I learned teaching Clinical Medicine at UCONN School of Medicine is the way medical students are taught to…
How Do I Know What I Want?
Knowing what we want seems like it should be the easiest thing in the world, right? Why, then, can it be SO hard? So often I ask people, “What do you really want?” I then see pain, confusion or frustration on his or her face when they say, “I don’t know.” That’s often followed up…